It’s times like this that I miss Atlanta. I’d know right where to go to get a charger. Cheap. Here, I feel stuck and out of sorts. This city still feels like a vacation to me.
I’m looking online. Thanks Glennisha for reminding me. Admittedly, I’m torn between looking for a store here and getting immediate gratification or making the online purchase and waiting a few days. Ugh…
On the home front, my grandmother has propositioned my mom. She wants to go live in an old folks home retirement village and leave the house to my mom. It’s been willed to my mom anyway, but my grandmother put in a very blunt way. “Yall have taken over the house anyway.” I think that statement hurt my mom’s feelings. It’s a sad situation because the mortgage on this house is cheaper than it would be if my mom just moved into an apartment.
My mom is afraid of the backlash. My mom is one of seven kids. Six since my uncle passed almost 10 years ago. The youngest kids, 2 of my aunts are the most opinionated and judgemental of the entire family. Ironically, it’s those two that have never had a problem with my sexuality, but I digress… My mom is afraid that my grandmother will make a similar statement to one of them and she will feel the brunt of their disapproval.
I’ve been saying for awhile now that I thought grandma should leave to go be around her sister. I think she’s lonely and needs to be around people her own age. I think that maintaining this house is a bigger job than she anticipated. Or maybe she thought my granddaddy would be around forever to do it for her… In any event, I think it’s more than she can or wants to deal with.
I heard her talking this morning to her sister and she seems excited about the prospects. I can’t tell if it’s real enthusiasm or if she’s trying to fake herself out. It’s always kind of hard to tell with her. She’s so blunt, but other times she’s so difficult to read. She makes things so obvious when she wants you to know something, but when she doesn’t it’s like looking at a painting. Damn, I think I just described myself…
Anyway, my cousin the marine is supposed to be going on a 6 month tour soon. He has a one year old and a fiance. A 20 year old with light brown hair and light blue eyes. She’s actually someone lil sis used to work with back in the day. They are really close. Close to the point where she wants my sister to come live with her while my cousin is overseas. My sister loves the idea of getting out of this house, but I don’t think she realizes that the girl is not going to take care of her. My sister is admittedly spoiled by every person in this house. There is very little she has to do for herself. She spends every bit of money she gets on what she wants and lets my mom take care of her basic needs.
Also on the family front, another cousin is preaching on Sunday. It’ll be a big day because his older brother just got back from Afghanistan and it’ll be his first time seeing him preach. He’ll be preaching at our family church. The church where all of my grandmother’s children and grandchildren were baptized. A lot of my family have found other churches. Churches closer to them because the drive is about 25 miles for my closest family member. I think the last time we were all there was my granddaddy’s funeral…
On another note, I’m wondering what happened to my regular email buddy? I don’t have enough going on to keep you entertained while you pretend to work at night? She’ll know what I mean…
And I think the young lady that flirted with me on twitter disappeared, but not before asking for a revealing pic. Where you’d go?
And before the rest of you wonder, I did warn both of these people that they may end up in a blog!
Happy Friday yall…I think I’m heading over to Amazon. When did it get cheaper than Overstock?…
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As far as your grandmother that may be a good move for her. Even though she doesn’t have people at the house that are her age it’s good that there are people there. I know my grandmother is definitely getting to the point where she really does need someone to live with her. We all go spend the night with her from time to time but, it’s just not enough.
If the mortgage on the house is cheaper than apt if I was your mom I’d take up the offer and 4get what her sisters have to say. Especially since the house is technically hers anyway. There is really nothing your aunts can do or say about it. There problem would or should be with your Grandmother and not your mom. In actuality they shouldn’t have a problem with her because it’s her house and she can give it to whomever she pleases.
You’re welcome. I hope you find a good a deal on Amazon.
You know how families can be. Things are a little tense between a few of the siblings anyway, my mom is trying not to add to it.
I found one for $14. Beats the $40 one my mom bought. And the $106 they sell at bestbuy!
It’d probable be best for Grandma to make that move, only because of all the tasks she has to worry about taking care of with the house. It’ll actually give her a chance to live out her days relaxed. My Grandma doesn’t have that luxury, she’s all the way In Jamaica in the country (backwoods) where it’s hard for the family to get to her. She’s stubborn that way. Refused to move to America. Refused to move to the city. Sometimes My Aunts go out to see her but the drive itself will kill you (literally). I think your nana will be okay as long as she goes somewhere that’s still close to her family. For the charger I would suggest Tiger Direct if Amazon doesn’t work for you.
I think it’ll be a bit of a stress reliever for her too. It’ll allow her to relax and all that…I swear old people get even more stubborn with old age.
good luck with Amazon, you’ll most likely find what you need. ebay?
i believe elderly people thrive when they are in environments with people their own age. And being around her sister will definitely be a good look. I hope the decision-making and transition is smooth as possible for ya’ll.
In general, sounds like there’s a lot happening on the family front. your lil sis will grow up eventually, and living in a roommate situation will definitely kick that into gear…however, living with a baby that isn’t yours can be frustrating and stressful. you have a lot of cousins serving in the military, does that stress you out at all??
I’ve got cousins in every branch of the military. It stresses all of us out. Mostly because my cousin’s that are in all have babies and more on the way. They are doing it to take care of their family. I hate that they feel like they don’t have any other options.
FUCK! I’m trying to type with one finger, and it just ate all that I took a half hour to write! Anyway, I’m so used to buying everything online, due to living far from everything, and I guess I’m surprised — since you haven’t had a car in so long — that you’re not used to it, too.
Intense about your grandma. So, her sister lives at the place she’s talking about going? How is your ma taking it all?
I think it’d be so good for your sis to move out (even if you’d be lonely)!
I think I mentioned how my mom is taking it. Yes, her sister lives in the same building she’s considering. I’d love for my sister to leave, but I don’t think she’d stay away long.
Yea, cosign on the Ebay suggestion. Might even be cheaper than Amazon.
Regarding your grandmother, I think the most important thing is that it’s her choice. My grandfather in Trinidad thrived for years after my grandmother’s death. I think this was primarily because he moved in with his daughter into a three family house and there were about three sets of his grandkids. So while it’s important for her to be around people her age, it might be just as important for her to be around family.
No one in this house suggested it to her, so if it’s not her choice, I’m not sure who’s influencing her. I think that she needed to have people around when my grandfather first passed, but now I think she’s ready to start a new phase of her life.
Good move for your grandmother being that you know she is lonely and needs to be around people moving at her pace and speed. She’s at the age where she knows what she needs and wants to go ahead and get certain things out of the way while she can with a clear mind.
My grandma isn’t a real old person though. She does more in a day than I do! I think it’s important that she’s socializes with people who’ve had similar experiences and right now that’s something that’s seriously lacking from her life…
Thank you for visiting! I see you’re following me all over the blog world, huh?
(((WHAT UP ALIX! I CAN’T READ ALL OF YOUR POST ‘CAUSE I’M ON A ROLL RIGHT NOW! JUST HELLOING YOU!! HOLLA!)))
Rolling where?
im late to the party. as far as your grandma goes…i think she should do what makes her happy and fam should support her. my grandma “downsized” for a 2 level to a ranch home, because it was just too much for her in many ways.