Comments on: hit me and I’ll hit you back

By: Alix

Alix — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:15:22 +0000

Adrenaline is a SOB…

By: Alix

Alix — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:13:52 +0000

Hey Tmboy! Thanks for joining in. And you’re right. No circumstance should earn someone physical abuse.

By: Alix

Alix — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:12:22 +0000

Good points!

By: Alix

Alix — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:06:53 +0000

how mad would you be if you called the police and the victim opted not to file charges?

By: Alix

Alix — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:05:46 +0000

We all learn from our experiences. Otherwise there is no reason for us to go through the bs…

By: steadycat

steadycat — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 16:47:36 +0000

violence is violence. If I see it happening, I don’t care if She is a good friend or not, I’m calling the police. I’m not down with it.

*waves ay Mermaid* Long time, no see.

By: tmboy

tmboy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:15:19 +0000

Ok so my final point is that I think one should only hit back if they can’t walk away after the first strike. If you gotta fight for your safety fight, but sometimes its better to just leave the nutty people alone instead of getting into a cycle. BUT like the person above me, pop me in the eye and my brain may not act quickly enough to lay your behind out… but it will try and chastise me afterward for acting without thinking.

By: tmboy

tmboy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:01:12 +0000

I think a lot of studs/doms/tomboy feel that way. Because we are the “aggressive” personality or we may feel/look physically stronger we dont strike back. The rule stands “you dont put your hands on a woman” EVER. Even if she hits you its not a good look for you to hit her back. “Take it like a man”, leave the psycho alone and keep it moving. I dont think “stud with swagg” was saying that the girl was allowed to hit her. But that it wasn’t ok to hit her back. Just because someone hits you doesnt mean you HAVE to hit back. You can walk away. In the case of DV you end the relationship, NO EXCEPTIONS. I would not date a woman that would forgive ME for hitting her… not ok. I take it as a sign that there’s something wrong with her. I think femmes should never date a dom that is surprised that she would at least defend herself if attacked. Those people expect you to be punching bags…

By: tmboy

tmboy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 00:51:04 +0000

Why does it matter “what led up to the hitting?” Are there any circumstances where its OK to respond by hitting? (Besides getting hit first). That statement seems to Beg for an excuse to the hitting. Like “oh Rhianna must have hit him first”… Even IF she did, did she deserve that level of response from Chris? There is NEVER a good reason to put your hands on ANYONE, short of self defense. Even so “self defense” means stopping an attack from continuing… not whooping up on someone because “they started it”.

By: tamara

tamara — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:37:34 +0000

In my mind, abuse is continuous and degrading– and mentally damaging as physical damaging. This usually has no real empitous behind it and can’t be rationalized by any means.

Fighting is just that–a fight. Usually bought on by the fact that communication skills are lacking. This can be talked out. I was never one of those people that if we fight, we can be friends and sit down and talk it out; so that doesn’t work for me.

Anyone can be involved in an abusive relationship…doesn’t matter if you are dating, family, or whatever. I